The (Scary) Reasons We Don’t Share Our Faith

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Romans 10:14 … How can they believe in the One whom they have not heard?  And how can they hear without someone telling them?

Twenty years ago, my son came home from church camp with the weight of the world on his young shoulders. During his time at camp, he awakened to the reality of eternity and the need to share the gospel with people who don’t know Jesus.

His heart was burdened for one particular member of our family. He asked me to take him shopping so he could use his own money to buy her a Bible. Within a few days, we purchased a Bible and we were in the car for the 90-mile drive to her house.

What I didn’t tell my son was how his request filled me all kinds of anxiety. Even though I had been a faithful churchgoer and Bible teacher for years, I struggled to share my faith with unbelievers. I didn’t really know how to share the gospel.

So, when the time came for my son to present her with the Bible, I never shared the gospel with her. Instead, I talked to her about church. Sometimes, it’s easier to talk about church than to talk about Jesus.

I wish I could say this experience initiated a change in me, but it really didn’t. Instead, I made excuses to stay silent.

I’m just not an evangelist.
It’s not my gifting.
I’m not comfortable sharing my faith.  

And 20 years later, I still struggle to communicate the story of the gospel with unbelievers. It’s easy for me to talk about Jesus in church. It feels safe in church. But out there? It feels scary out there.

So, after months of conviction, I took a gut-honest look at all the reasons why sharing the gospel is hard for me. It was a long list.

Reasons I didn’t share my faith

  1. Fear.
  2. Lack of knowledge.
  3. False belief that I didn’t have the gift of evangelism.
  4. Unbelief: I lost sight of the fact that God is working in the lives of unbelievers.
  5. Indifference: I didn’t feel a burden for the lost.
  6. It made me uncomfortable.
  7. Shame.

What about you? I know some of you can relate. What wouId you add to this list?

I also know there are some of you who can’t relate at all to what I’m saying. Some of you share the gospel easily and often. But you are not the norm. If you were the norm, churches would be packed out each Sunday.

I am not sharing this message to make you feel condemnation. Please don’t walk away feeling shamed. We’re in this together! Together let’s take an honest look at what holds us back and discover how we can grow in this area of discipleship. In the coming weeks, I’ll be talking more about how to share our faith, despite all the scary reasons we don’t want to.


  1. Sandra Johnson on April 10, 2018 at 8:32 PM

    Gosh this took me years to break those chains of fear I was allowing to take over within myself. I had been ridiculed and made fun of by family members when I was in my 30’s that I allowed that to crush my fleshy spirit. I had to go deeper and ask God to help me overcome in order to move forward and share. He used my pain to pull me up out of the fear Satan held over me. It didn’t come by a snap of a finger it took time, meditating and reading his book to get courageous. Now I know He is ‘my Father’ and He loves me so much I want to share!

    • TammyHerzig on April 11, 2018 at 6:38 AM

      I feel the same way, Sandra! Once we connect to His love, it feels impossible to stay silent.

  2. Helen Tiede on April 11, 2018 at 12:24 PM

    I am struggling to share my faith with unsaved family members which is very distressing!! I remind myself of all of the things God’s Word says and yet I barely begin to share and I become fearful of my message being rejected and possibly causing my family to distance themselves from me. It’s like being in a squirrel cage and going no where fast! I’m tired of this shameful feeling of not being able to share with those I love most! I have been an overcomer in so many other areas…why not this one??

  3. TammyHerzig on April 11, 2018 at 1:30 PM

    Family members are the hardest, Helen. Pray for opportunities to love them well, to live out the fruit of the Holy Spirit. And rest in HIM. He is so pleased with you and your longing to speak of Him.

  4. Susan Daugherty on July 29, 2018 at 11:44 AM

    Hi Tammy! We met at the Next Step breakfast. I am reading this while sitting in the Kansas City airport waiting for the church youth group bus to grab me on the way to Oklahoma. I love your heart for the unreached, the answers to prayer you see unfolding, and the way you speak for those who can’t speak for themselves. May He continue to extend your reach for the Kingdom!

    • TammyHerzig on August 1, 2018 at 4:18 PM

      Hi Susan! It was so great to meet you. Thank you for the encouragement. God is definitely up to something and it is GOOD!

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